Guide To Succesful Long Distance Relationship

For some people, Long Distance relationship probably very hard. Not just because it is difficult, it;s also because we don't meet and talk to our partner as often as usual, but practically everybody you meet will have a bad story about how a long distance relationship how a long-distance relationship not work out for them. Once, I read that absence diminishes little love and gains great ones. Keep this in your mind when you are going through hard times.

If you have not yet committed to a long distance relationship and are studying it, know that it is a big deal commitment. You need to make sure that you truly love the person and that it is worth it for you to make certain sacrifices. Below are some Guide to succesful long distance relationship.

1. Be honest about what you expect from each other.
Do you want the freedom to date other people? Are you comfortable with your partner making friends with the opposite sex? Are you going to try the long-distance thing out and stick with it if it seems to work, but not try to force the relationship? Discuss these things with your partner and be honest about your expectations. This way, everything is out in the open and it will lessen the suspicions you have about the other person. Also, you never have to question if you are crossing a boundary.

2. Coordinate your schedules.
You need to be realistic about the time commitment you both can give to each other. If it works for both of your agendas, you can make a plan and talking to your partner at a particular time at night. However, this can make you stress if you have other plan to go out with friends and your long distance partner probably can not understand about your need to meet your friend and be social. Your partner also can be jealous of the time you spend with your friends or other people. No matter what, you need to try to keep in touch with your partner through phone calls, E-mail, AIM, or other means daily. To cut the expenses, you can download Skype, net2phone, or phonefree program. Its free to talk online if you both download those programs ... so you will be able to keep in touch with your partner where you are. Also, you can try a web cam for a more personal connection.

3. Make plans in advance to see each other in person.
If you set firm dates to see each other and stick to them, it makes the wait less difficult because you can spend time planning outings with your partner and looking forward to seeing them. When you mutually agree on certain times to see each other, it lessens problems that can arise from one person feeling like they are pressuring the other into seeing them and the other feeling like the are too busy and are pushing away from the relationship because of the pressure.

4. Arrange to participate in long-distance activities together.
Meet online to play games against each other or watch a television show at the same time. Also, try “virtual dates” Send you partner an E-mail describing a place (for example, a beach) and a time (dusk). Ask them to describe what kind of date they would have with your in this setting ,what you would wear, talk about, eat, what activities you would take part in, etc. Doing little activities like this together helps you to reconnect and remember the day-to-day fun you used to have.

5. Do not make issues larger than they actually are.
Communication can be not easy for long distance relationship. You need to avoid fighting over the small issues ... with the communication problems, these little things can be big problem. Agree to disagree when it looks like you aren’t making any progress. In these types of relationships, you are bound to have feelings of uncertainty and doubt. Try for not making any drastic changes unless you are absolutely positive that things aren’t working. Threatening to break up every time you two are going through a rough patch wont help the situation at all, particularly if you aren’t serious about ending it. Do communicate honestly about problems that you are having with the long-distance situation, but do it in a manner that is constructive and problem-solving.

6. Surprise them.
Send flowers or chocolates to your partner’s office. For an extra-special treat, Fed-Ex them food from their favorite restaurant back home. Send cards for no reason and E-mails just to let them know that you are thinking about them.

7. Share the details of your life. Talk about the little things that happen in your day. Keep your partner informed about what you are up to at work and socially. Call your partner for advice. When you had the chance to spend more time together, you talked about these things, right? It will help maintain a sense of normalcy and a sense of trust between the two of you.

8. Focus on the future.
A long-distance relationship will not work forever. Make plans to live in the same city as soon as possible. Ambiguity about the future will add tension and doubt.

9. Never assume the worst.
If your partner is late calling you one day or you hear someone else’s voice in the background, ask them what is going on before flying into a fit of rage and accusing them of being unfaithful. If you can’t get a hold of them, call a friend instead and distract yourself. No matter what, don’t stress over it.

10. Meet your partner’s friends and have your partner meet your friends.
If you have some close friends or family that you can trust, it will help you have more trust in the relationship. Your close friends or family can reassure you when you are having doubts. Although you don’t want to have to turn to someone else to solve all of your problems, it can definitely be good to have someone else there to relieve your fears.